Showing posts with label Things that are undervalued. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Things that are undervalued. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 6, 2013

On senses of entitlement

Earlier today, I had a test in my Labor Econ class (it was tough, but I think it went well, thanks for asking!).  Before the test, the professor wrote "Stay calm and THINK" on the whiteboard in the front of the room.  It was interesting to me because of its simplicity and its power.  We, as a collective country (world?), fail to do at least one of those things, and all too often we fail to do both.

Later this afternoon, Notre Dame announced that the commencement speaker in May for the Class of 2013 would be Cardinal Dolan, the Archbishop of New York, one of the most powerful people in the Catholic Church, and one of Time Magazine's 100 most influential people in the world in 2012.  Of course everyone was ecstatic.  Here we were, at the best Catholic university in the United States (and I'm assuming world but I can't back that up), getting the Cardinal of New York, a longshot candidate of being the next Pope, as our commencement speaker.  Live and in person.  Wow!

Wait, that's not what happened at all.

Before I get into the actual result, let's give a brief history of Notre Dame Commencement Speakers of Recent Memory (NDCSRMs).

2012: Haley Scott DeMaria, a former Notre Dame swimmer who was severely injured, and survived, the brutal 1992 bus crash that killed two of her teammates.  On the 20th anniversary of the incident you would think that Notre Dame students would be excited to hear her inspiring words of perseverence and the strength of the Notre Dame family.  Nope, everyone complained.

2011: Robert M. Gates, Secretary of Defense, leader of two wars, former President of Texas A&M, the 7th largest university in the United States.  Pretty cool, right?  Nope, according to Patrick McDonnell, "I saw that a few students were excited, but most reactions were of indifference, simple acceptance or slight disappoint."

2009: Barack Obama, newly elected President of the United States.  The Leader of the Free World!  Whether I voted for him or not, this is amazing!  What an opportunity!  Nope, we complained because he was pro-choice.  We complained about the MOST POWERFUL MAN IN THE WORLD.  Would we complain if Jesus came back down from Heaven to give the address???

Notre Dame complaining about having to sit through a boring lecture from the President
Now let's try to stay calm and think for a while.

The point of college, when you strip it down, is education.  See: The University of Phoenix.  At the end of the day, we are paying for the quality of education.  Higher quality education = higher tuition costs.  Tuition is also inflated by research that the school does, the social and charitable work that the school does, and the quality of life on campus (basically all non-school, non-charitable benefits to a student) to break it down to an extremely basic level.  Let's see how Notre Dame does at all of those:

Education
  • 17th best University in the U.S. - US News and World Report
  • 12th best College - Forbes
  • Best Business School - Bloomberg
  • 10th highest median starting salary at $53,400 (across all majors) - PayScale
  • An 11-1 student to faculty ratio
  • 65 degree programs
  • Excellent Career Center and Career Fairs
  • Signaling effect to employers from a Notre Dame degree
Social/Charitable
  • 53 Student Service Organizations
  • 9 Student Religious Organizations
  • Events such as Bengal Bouts and Bookstore Basketball that support worldwide charities
  • Connections to local community service institutions
  • Access to hundreds of Holy Cross priests
Quality of Life

  • 19th best Food Services in the Country
  • Prettiest campus in the world
  • 385 clubs and organizations
  • Over 20 Division 1 sports teams
  • The 2nd best football team in the country in 2012
  • New facilities (Mendoza, DPAC, Jordan, Rolfs, Purcell Pavilion)

When we pay for college, we pay for the access to all of these things.  We aren't entitled to any of them, we aren't guaranteed any of them, we are simply given access to them and the opportunity to use them.  Everyday, Notre Dame students take advantage of these opportunities without gratitude because we feeling entitled to them.  And maybe we are.  Maybe we deserve them because of the check that we write every six months.   I don't think that we deserve any of this.

The four years that I have had at Notre Dame have been, by far, the best four years of my entire life.  I've grown in academic ways, in social ways, in religious ways, and in personal ways.  Did I know I was going to go to a great school in August of 2009 when I first arrived at Alumni Hall?  Yes.  But I had no idea that I would become a better, more well-rounded person who was better prepared to go out and face the world.  I will be eternally grateful for what Notre Dame gave me.  College isn't about buying a diploma so you can get a job.  College is about growing as a person, and Notre Dame, more than any school in the entire world (research not needed, differing opinions ignored), allows, and forces, students to grow as people.

So back to my first point about Cardinal Dolan.  Every single review I saw of the choice of him as speaker was negative or sarcastic.  They pointed to how he wouldn't be funny.  They called him a homophobe.  They said it wasn't as good as Brian Williams from three years ago.

There are things that are wrong with Cardinal Dolan.  Most notably, he's a strong opponent to gay marriage, but so is the Catholic Church and we've all decided to go to their school.  He's strongly against abortion, which Notre Dame and the Church also agree with him on.  He investigated a sex abuse scandal and took priesthood away from the offenders, which we're all in favor of.  At the end of the day, he's a successful, and very powerful, religious man that we can all learn from.

So what do we think we're entitled to?  I've heard multiple people complain because Stephen Colbert turned us down (may or may not be a rumor, I have no idea), who was a former commencement speaker at Knox College and at Northwestern.  How dare he turn down prestigious Notre Dame?!?!?!  Who would have the gumption to do that?!?!?!  Now we're stuck with this Cardinal?  I can't believe I'm paying $50,000 for this.

If Notre Dame wanted to, they could mail us our diplomas and not have a ceremony at all.  That wouldn't change our standing as graduates, and it wouldn't take away what we had done, and how we had grown, during our time here.  Instead, they're throwing us a party on a beautiful May morning in the most storied football stadium in the world and we can invite whoever we want.  If you want a different speech, that's fine.  Here's Colbert.  Here's Will Ferrell.  Here's Brian Williams.  Here's Steve Jobs.  Are they any less meaningful words because they were directed at Northwestern or Harvard or Stanford and not the 2013 Class at Notre Dame?  Is Cardinal Dolan not going to say something interesting or inspiring as well?  Isn't a new speaker better than hearing a backup speech from someone who has already done it somewhere else?

What I'm trying to say is that we aren't paying $50,000 for a 20 minute speech at our graduations.  We aren't paying for our graduation.  We're paying it for our four years of experiences, of which graduation is simply a period on the end of a chapter.  Anyone choosing to speak to us should be something that we're grateful for, not that we feel entitled to.  So instead of complaining because we didn't get more whipped cream on dessert at the end of a beautiful, gourmet meal, how about we appreciate what we've been given already, and look forward to what Cardinal Dolan will say.

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

On Springtime

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Three minutes ago I was trying to figure out just how to get away from South Bend, which is ironic considering what I’m about to write but not so unbelievable considering the conditions at the time.  For the past week, in every spare minute I’ve had (and in some minutes that really shouldn’t have been considered “spare”) I’ve been refreshing Indians.com and @MLBastian’s twitter feed in order to keep myself as up to date as I possibly can on the Tribe’s progress in Spring Training.  It’s been the most exciting and productive offseason in recent memory, and I’ve been counting down the days (40!) until they open the season in Toronto.  The fact that they’re in beautiful Arizona with its sunshine and mountain backdrops while I’m in South Bend with its sleet and haze has only made me want to mentally move from here to there that much more.

That’s how we get back to me wanting to leave South Bend.  I went to map out the distance from South Bend to Goodyear, AZ, but before I could find anything out (1840 miles, 27 hours according to the speed limits) the picture below popped up to remind me where I am.


When I saw that picture I got a feeling not unlike the one that you get when you see a girl you’re into flirting with another guy.  Gravity loses a grip on your stomach, your shoulders fall, and you’d give anything to just be able to turn and look away but you know it’s pretty much useless to even try.  There’s a time bomb in your pocket and no matter what you do or say you know that eventually you’re going to lose them.  On this cold, windy, snowy-but-not-pretty-snow day in South Bend that picture showed me the warm-weather Notre Dame that's going to appear in a few weeks, and while I love everything about Notre Dame, that's the Notre Dame that I love best, and that's the Notre Dame that I'm going to miss.

Notre Dame is special in the springtime more than any other time of the year.  Springtime is when basketball games move outdoors, organized events slow down and free time builds out, and futons move onto the quad just in time for Sundress Day.  Springtime is when the afternoon sun hits the stained glass of Alumni Chapel perfectly, warms the balconies enough for a rooftop happy hour, and then slips over the top of the Rock in the prettiest sunset in the world.

Beat that.
Springtime is when you spend more time with your friends because you know you won't see them in months, it's when you stop spending so much time studying, either because you don't care or because you have the class pattern down, it's when you walk just a little slower to lectures because it's that nice out.  Springtime is when reading moves from library tables to lakeside benches, it's when Fridays and Saturdays become one long various-shades-of-drunk bonding session, and when you start to hear the bagpipes on the breeze in the late afternoon. Springtime is when shirts turn to tanks, it's when you trade cab rides for group walks, and it's when God washes over campus in the form of cool evening humidity.  Springtime is when Notre Dame comes out in full force to really ensure that you miss it all summer.  I've always loved it, except this time the summer away that follows South Quad Spring won't turn back into Football Fall.

Starting three months from now, South Bend won't be home ever again.  There will be springs wherever I go and I don't know what they will be like, but whatever they are, they won't bring what's coming in the next few weeks, and I hate knowing that, but at the same time, I've been blessed with the experience of springtime here that only a few get to know.  So while I'm going to have to part ways with it eventually, and while that feeling in my stomach might come back, I still can't wait for it to come.

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

"It seems delightful, but so unnecessary"

Three years ago this summer I was in Bloomington, IL for a baseball showcase (They told me I was a DIII level prospect, I didn't believe them, they were right) and my Dad and I stopped for dinner at the original Jimmy John's.  Pretty cool to begin with, but the even cooler part was a sign on the wall.  Anybody who's visited a Jimmy John's knows about all the funny signs (One in Milwaukee said "Hippies Not Welcome," or something to that effect) that riddle the walls, but this one was a little bit different.  It was titled "How Much Is Enough?" and went like this:

The American investment banker was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large fin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.
The Mexican replied, “only a little while.”
The American then asked why he didn’t stay out longer and catch more fish?
The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs.
The American then asked, “but what do you do with the rest of your time?”
The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siesta with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos, I have a full and busy life.”
The American scoffed, “I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat, and with the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several boats. Eventually, you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually NYC where you will run your expanding enterprise.”
The Mexican fisherman asked, “But, how long will this take?”
To which the American replied, “15-20 years.”
“But what then?”
The American laughed and said that’s the best part. “When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich, you would make millions.”
“Millions?” asked the fisherman, “Then what?”
The American said, “Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evening, sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos!”

The moral of the story is no secret; why be stressed and miserable for years and years so that you can do what you love later if you can do what you love now?

I know, I know, it's pretty hard to eat Cheetos, drink Bud Heavy, sit on your couch, and watch the Golf Channel for your entire life without getting evicted, losing all your friends, having your parents think you're a slob, and having girls never talk to you, and that's the one thing that you truly excel at, but let me explain:


No matter what your dream job is, chances are that there are things you'd rather be doing, but those things also don't provide you with funds.  What the Mexican man did was figure out a way to get all three into his day.  He was good at fishing, loved fishing, and could get paid to fish, so he did it, and then used it to live a comfortable life with his wife and family.  Could he have made more money doing something else?  Yes.  Could he have had a nicer boat?  Yes.  A bigger house?  Yes.  But what's the use?  When our family visited friends in Australia, we were telling them about how whipped cream is sweet in the States (it's literally just "whipped cream" down under).  One of the daughters seemed a little bit perplexed when she heard this, then finally said, "It seems delightful, but so unnecessary.."

Sure, the added sweetness seems nice, but if it's whipped cream you're looking for, doesn't unsweetened get the job done?  If we really stretch the analogy, the added sugar will harm your body in the long run blah blah blah etc etc.

Unfortunately, that's a dangerous road to go down.  Settling for less is never a good thing, and even if you like something, you're good at it, and you're getting paid, it doesn't necessarily mean that there isn't a better situation out there which you like more, you're better at, and you could get paid more.  It also doesn't mean that we need to pretend that a situation is something that it isn't.  I'm all for positive attitudes, but it's never good to pretend that you love something just because you're currently doing it.  Finding the positives is a good thing, looking on the bright side is a good thing, but feigning passion always seems to lead to disaster.

One of my recent favorite songs is Doc Pomus, by Ben Folds, namely because of two wonderfully written lyrics (written by Nick Hornby).

1. "Out they pour, the hits and the misses."

2. "He could never be one of those happy cripples / The kind that smile and tell you life's okay."

Good things happen and bad things happen.  That's unavoidable, but what is totally in our control is our reaction to them.  If something comes along to cripple us, we don't have to just sit and take it.  If we're stuck doing something we don't love, we don't just have to stay with the job.  If somebody breaks our heart, we don't just have to feel sorry for ourselves.  If things aren't okay, we need to do something to fix it, to try to find that dream combination of love and skill and support.  It's always there.

The key is finding the right balance.  Just because something is delightful doesn't mean it's unnecessary and just because something is unnecessary doesn't mean we have to settle and pretend it's delightful.  Sometimes it's good to step back and say, "Why am I doing this?  What am I looking to gain?"  At age 60, the American executive and the Mexican fisherman would have had the same life, but life isn't always about destinations.  A lot of the time it's about the journey.

Friday, December 10, 2010

America and Its Game

  I'd like to apologize for not posting much in the past few weeks.  I'm busy, okay?  Get off my back.  Anyway, this is a paper that I had to write for my Sports in American Life class (It's really a class, and it meets a requirement, I swear!  Who says that Notre Dame is a real academic institution.  Just kidding.  All my other classes suck).  Anyway, here we go (citations included, contact for works cited):



A man stands in the setting afternoon sun, his shirt is grimy and his back sweaty from his long day toiling in the scorching summer heat.  He is bruised and battered, but not unhappy.  He is simply doing his job, just like millions of Americans have done before him.  He selects a tool from the shelf and walks forward, swinging it to loosen his stiff muscles.  But this man is not like other manual laborers, and his employer is not considered average, either.  He is a baseball player.  A member of what would be the 331st ranking company on Fortune’s list (Fortune 500); Major League Baseball, an industry that grossed almost seven billion dollars during the 2010 season (Sports Statistics).  With an income comparable to that of Visa and AutoZone, the Major Leagues have a very strong economic power.  In fact, it makes more money per year than approximately eighty-five countries (CIA).  But baseball is one of the few businesses that can claim both economic and emotional ties to the American people. 
Having existed for over one hundred years, since the merger of the American and National Leagues in 1901, it is also one of the few that has stood strong through the twentieth century.  Baseball players, unlike most normal businessmen, are our idols.  Coming from every background, every race, every size, and every other category imaginable, we are able to see a little bit of ourselves in these men.  The short kid who gets bullied can rally on the spirit of Cody Ross, the 2010 National League Championship Series Most Valuable Player, who hit five home runs in fifteen playoff games, despite his 5’10” frame, to lead his San Francisco Giants to a World Series title (Cody Ross).  The slugging all-star has to stay humble after watching Mark McGwire, the one time Home Run King, and his historic fall from grace after the steroid scandal during the 1998 season.  Kids from the ghetto have Dontrelle Willis, who grew up the son of a single mother in a rough neighborhood of Alameda, California. The blue-collar workers have Cal Ripken, who didn’t take a day off of work for over seventeen years.  Baseball teaches us patience, strategy, roles, sacrifice, responsibility, pressure, endurance, and love, qualities that can only be learned by experience, and will never be taught in schools.  Jacques Barzun, an American historian, once stated that, “Whoever wants to know the heart and mind of America had better learn baseball” (Tygiel ix).  This may not be totally true, as there are many people getting along just fine in the United States without knowing the difference between a foul ball and a knuckleball, but an understanding of baseball provides a lens that makes American life look much more vivid.  Through its economic role and social influence, baseball has played a large part in shaping American culture as we know it today.

America has been the incubator for many sports in the last century.  Football and basketball both grew up primarily on American soil, and fans have readily embraced hockey and soccer from other parts of the world.  Any of these could have grown into “America’s pastime,” but baseball was the one that did.  There’s nothing overly remarkable about the game of baseball.  There isn’t really a “wow” factor that makes fans stream in simply for the fantastical aspect.  It’s slightly slow-paced, with fifteen to twenty seconds between every pitch, most of which only last for the one second that it takes for the ball to reach the catcher’s mitt.  Even when a ball is hit into play, about 70% of the time it is an out, most of which are routine plays.  What draws in the fans that flood the stadiums every summer night?  What gives the game of baseball the mystical aspect that makes it so desirable?  

This mystique comes from the fact that baseball is like no other game.  The other four aforementioned sports that have gained popularity in America, football, basketball, hockey, and soccer, are all categorized by David Hart as part of the “oblong game,” which he describes as “a contest played out on a rectangle between two sides, each attempting to penetrate the other’s territory to deposit some small object in the other’s goal or end zone” (Hart 5).  These sports are a battle over territory, where one team is clearly on the offensive and the other is clearly on the defensive, where there is always a clear-cut target; putting the ball in the goal or crossing it over the end-line.  In baseball, a player must cross home plate in order to score, but that is never his primary goal when he enters the field as a batter.  He must first find a way to reach base, and then, with help of his own teammates and through his own accord, he must round the bases in order to score a run. 

Only in the case of a home run is a player directly responsible for scoring a run.  In all other cases, a player’s run is half the responsibility of the man who drove him in.  The defense can do nothing to physically hold him back, making size and strength, which are at a premium in the oblong game, of minimal value.  As Hart states, “The oblong game is war, but baseball is Attic tragedy” (10).  Life hardly ever gives us a clearly defined goal, and even more rare is the times that it gives us territory to defend.  The game of life is not a war, with clear-cut winners and losers, half getting everything that they want and the other half losing everything they have.  

In life, you have to put yourself in a good position to be successful and then rely on the people supporting you, a little bit of skill, and a little bit of luck.  Only rarely can anyone take over and hit the home run that propels them to success without the help of others.  Instead of a battle, it is a story, with ups and downs, runs and slides.  Even the best teams get beaten sometimes, but one loss doesn’t mean much in the big picture of the seemingly endless season.  What matters in baseball, like in life, is consistency and the ability to bounce back from tough situations.  The United States was built on these strengths, refusing to ever be beaten for long, and persisting through all adversity that came in the form of war, economic hardship, and social tension.  A baseball season isn’t decided in one moment, and neither is a life.  It is a collection of moments, coupled together into what seems to be eternal.
Like life, baseball is timeless.  There is no clock running down the minutes and seconds that are so precious in over games.  Theoretically, even an inning could last forever, something that can not be said about a quarter or a half in a game such as basketball or football.  On a deeper level, one can see that baseball, as long as anyone can remember, has been a constant presence in our lives from March through October, every day of every month of every summer.  As far as any of us mortals are concerned, “baseball is continuous, like nothing else among American things, an endless game of repeated summers, joining the long generations of all the fathers and all the sons (Hall 46).”  This ongoing company gives us confidence that everything will fall into place with time.  Even the field can be infinite, as there are no set dimensions for how deep the outfield fence should be.  The only regulation on the size of the field is the ninety-foot difference between bases, the sixty and a half-foot distance from home plate to the pitchers mound, and the ninety-degree angle of the playing service.  Other than that, the field is based on the whim of the team.  “Fair territory is, in fact, conceptually limitless and extends endlessly beyond any outfield walls. Home plate is an open corner on the universe, and the limits we place on the game’s endless vistas are merely the accommodation we strike between infinite possibility and finite actuality” (Hart 12). 

In life, the playing field is different everywhere that we go as well.  No job will ever be the same, as the conditions and location will always change depending on the role and purpose of the position.  No day will ever be the same as the last, no minute will ever repeat.  All that we can be sure of is the basic framework in which we can work, the fair territory, if you will.  After this, it’s all up to whomever we are playing for or working for.  We must take this for what it is worth, and appreciate it for all the different opportunities it gives us.  We can find places that fit our strengths.  Places where maybe it’s a little bit easier to hit a home run or to find a gap that allows us to stretch to reach the extra base in life.  We must be patient, however, and learn how to adapt to the environment before we jump into a situation that we cannot handle.

Patience is quite possibly the most important aspect of the game.  Waiting for the perfect pitch during an at-bat or staying mentally in-tune without getting a defensive chance for innings is vital to the success of a player and of a team.  If one player does not have the patience required, the whole team could suffer.  This simple lesson, learned on the sandlots and backyards of youth, is also applicable in other facets of life.  Just as timing must be perfect to hit a line drive up the middle, it must also be dead-on in order to successfully solicit a potential customer.  We must be willing to wait for opportunities such as promotions, just as minor-leaguers toil seemingly forever before they get their call.  We must also learn to deal with failure.  Nobody on this Earth is even close to being perfect, and this must be accepted.  It is near certain that we will make at least one mistake every day, and it is also certain that if we dwell on these flaws, they will occur over and over again.  In baseball, a man who fails seventy percent of the time is a star, and a man who fails sixty percent of the time is an immortal.  Obviously, this ratio is not compatible with that of everyday life, but if we can remember this, we will be able to move on from our mistakes without remorse, and be even more successful in similar situations in the future.

Not only does baseball mirror daily life, but it also has a strong correlation with the life cycle.  Baseball season begins in the spring, about the same time that the snow melts and new life starts to come up from the ground.  Like children, the players begin to re-learn how to play the game during spring training practices, eventually beginning the season when spring has finally separated itself from winter enough to come into its own.  By the time the heat of summer comes, baseball has grown into its adult form.  It is natural and in the prime of its life.  There are few things more beautiful than a baseball game on a summer night.  The white uniforms of the home team seem to glow under the floodlights and the outfield grass looks as green as the rolling hills of Ireland.  The air is still warm, but the humidity disappears with the sun.  The smell of popcorn is in the air as the hum of the crowd provides an ample soundtrack to the smooth flow of the game.  Nights become cooler as baseball enters the twilight of its life in September, and by the end of October it has passed away with the green life of summer and spring.  Baseball has a constant presence for these eight months; day after day, week after week, month after month.  It becomes a part of our lives, as we easily adjust our daily routine to make room for the game on the radio, or browsing through the box scores in the morning paper.  Football is an event because it is a special event once every week.  People clear out schedules for football afternoons, but they don’t for baseball.  Why?  Baseball isn’t a demanding lover.  Baseball doesn’t need full attention for every game.  Baseball doesn’t get jealous of other commitments.  Baseball understands us just as we understand it.  It’s content with a little love and attention, but will never jump out at us if we don’t watch.  The course of a football season can be changed on any Sunday afternoon, but if the boys enter a baseball game in third place in the morning, there’s a good chance that they’ll be in third place that evening, whether we watch them or not.  The national relationship with baseball has matured to the point where we trust each other to remain as a constant even without attention for every inning of every game.  Perhaps this is why a depression seems to set in when the season ends.  Perhaps it is why the air finally seems to snap into winter mode when the last out is made.  Perhaps this is why the sun seems to shine a little softer the next morning. 
“Maybe it is the grindingly long, 162-game season, which allows for so many promising and disheartening plotlines to take shape, only to dissolve again along the way, and which sustains even the most improbable hope past any rational span; or maybe it is simply the course of the year’s seasons, from early spring into mid-autumn—nature’s perennial allegory of human life, eloquent of innocent confidence slowly transformed into wise resignation. Whatever it is, there is something of twilight in the game, something sadder and more lyrical than one can quite express. It even ends in the twilight of the year: All its many stories culminate in one last, prolonged struggle in the gathering darkness, from which one team alone emerges briefly victorious, after so long a journey; and then everything lapses into wintry stillness—hope defeated, the will exhausted.” (Hart 16)
Each winter is followed again by the promise of spring, and the cycle begins anew.  Players come and go, but the game is eternal, having been barely changed in the century and a half of its existence.  Football, hockey, and basketball have had to make rule changes, added additional tactics, and changed equipment over the same time period, but a baseball fan from the very beginning of the 20th century would still recognize the game today as the game that he had watched in his time.  Players come and go, breaking in with a flash and riding out into the sunset of late autumn, both of the season and of their lives.  “The young players seem proud of their easy condition, as if youth were virtue.  The young players tease the old ones who puff, especially all the old relief pitchers with little potbellies… Only one in five will become a big leaguer.  And when that fortunate one in five has made it, he will begin to puff, and he will hear the hungry generations behind him” (Hall 31).  In the same way that human life goes on after an individual life is over, the game of baseball goes on after a career ends.  “Baseball is a game of years and decades.  Al Kaline’s children grew up.  Rocky Colavito was traded, left baseball, became a mushroom farmer, and came back to baseball as a coach.  Jim Bunning turned into a great National League pitcher and retired…And Kaline kept on hitting line drives” (Hall 10).  As sure as we are that the sun will set behind the third base line at Wrigley Field, we can be just as sure that baseball will be the same game.  There will still be the old heroes, there will be the nervous rookies, and there will be the timeless managers.

Managers play a very interesting role in baseball, because compared to other sports there is far lower levels of in-game strategy.  Everybody uses the same defensive formation, everybody puts power hitters in the third, fourth, and fifth spots in the lineup, and they all use a leadoff hitter with a high on-base percentage.  There are only very general and very situational strategies in baseball.  For instance, a manager could like to bunt more or he could hope that his players can hit a lot of home runs.  He could use the bullpen liberally or opt to stay with his starters long into games.  There are also very situational strategies.  Situations late in games are very specific when it comes to the number of outs and men on base, and the batter coming to the plate.  These situations can make or break a ball club.

When approaching a tricky situation, there are always millions of methods of attack.  Would it be better to go all at once and hope everything falls into place instantly, or to hand assemble a step-by-step process that will ensure success over a longer period of time?  Should many different styles be integrated, or should the tried and true technique be left untouched?  Do you give a failed approach another shot, or rather opt for an unproven idea?  If an unorthodox tactic fails, you become the goat, but if it succeeds, you are seen as a strategical genius.  While these questions have pertinence in many aspects of life, they have a very strong importance in the game of baseball.  Everybody has their own coaching style.  Some favor small ball; the art of bunting, stealing, and sacrificing in order to “manufacture” runs.  Others believe in letting their players slug it out, hoping to simply out-power their opponents.  While many pitching coaches allow their starter to work as far as he can, in hopes of letting him finish what he started, others believe that certain specialists have better opportunities of stopping batters.  When a hitter has a hitless day going into the last inning, some coaches will let him hit, others will bring in a pinch-hitter.  Like the real-life situations, there is never a wrong answer, never a method without a strong argument backing it up, and never a perfect option, but over time, everyone discovers their own style through a process of trial and error.  

We as an American people have figured out our own coaching style.  We believe in out-slugging opponents in the majority of situations, but we will sacrifice if the situation calls for it.  We know that we can rely on our defense, and will almost always let our starters go the distance.  We have always been willing to rally from behind, no matter what the situation.  We are the reigning champions, the greatest team to ever grace the playing field.  We know our roles, and are willing to accept them, and therefore will always be among the elite.

In baseball, more than any other game, there are definite roles.  The defensive positions are unique, and while there are definite similarities in the outfield and the middle infield, players who are all-stars at one position can easily falter at another.  Even in one position, players can have different roles.  There are many different kinds of pitchers, from the starter to the closer, the workhorse reliever to the left-handed specialist.  The key to success lies in accepting these roles.  No individual can be above their team, and every team must know that it can not function without any individual.  The home-run hitter wouldn’t drive in half as many runs without the singles hitters, and the starting pitchers wouldn’t pick up many wins without the help of their bullpen.  On the other hand, no one player can make a difference in a ballgame.  Mickey Mantle, mentioned earlier, once had a batting average of .400 with eleven Runs Batted In and three home runs in a losing World Series Effort (Leavy 203).  Even a fantastic performance such as this one couldn’t create victories because of the lack of production from his teammates.  Mantle, however, was very understanding of the benefits of putting team success over individual success.  According to Ralph Hauk, Mantle’s manager for many years, “if he struck out three times and the team won, he was a happy guy in the clubhouse.  But he could have a great day and nobody’d know it” (Leavy 213).  When these roles are acknowledged, success is rarely out of reach. 
Social roles are very similar to the roles of baseball.  The most successful industries are the ones in which all employees are content with their job and what they must do.  Those higher up on the corporate ladder know that they rely on the support of the laborers underneath them, and those same laborers understand that they would not have the job if not for their superiors.  We also know our roles as citizens.  We live in a place as secure and just as America because of the strong, but fair, government that we support.  This government runs because of the taxes that we pay, and we realize the justification behind this.  We know that by being able to function together, we will continue to live and flourish in the most powerful country in the world.

The idea of having to function together is more prominent in baseball than in most other team sports due to the large amount of time that these players spend together.  A game nearly every day means having to spend eight to ten hours together when warming up, the game, and leaving after the game are all added together.  In most sports, these types of days would be broken up by practices, where the players would only have to spend a few hours together.  While this does create stress, it also creates a sense of family among the teammates that is not evident in other sports.  The dugout is a special place.  Unlike other benches, it is enclosed, providing the players with a sense of a home, protected and separated from the crowd surrounding it.  Inside this small space, the twenty-five men turn from acquaintances to friends to brothers.  American society is based around the family, and baseball is built around teammates.  There’s something magical about being on a baseball team.  The downtime during the game lets you learn about your teammates in ways that are impossible in the fast-paced environments of other sports.  

Everybody on the team is in the same boat.  Everybody misses the family that they leave behind when they go on the road.  Everybody feels the pressure of being kept on the big league roster.  Everybody knows what it is like to break in for the first time, and everybody learns from their elders how to leave the game gracefully.  There is a story about Mickey Mantle taking a teammate ten years his junior, Bobby Cox, under his wing.  Cox was a non-drinker, a rarity in the world of baseball in the 1960s.  Mantle was one of the biggest alcoholics of his day.  However, it was Mantle that went out of his way to treat Cox to a milkshake after games whenever they were on the road (Leavy 242).  He had no responsibility to do this, but because Cox had been put into his family, Mantle treated him like any family member should be treated.  

While this family atmosphere should be a relief, as any worker can testify to, people want to succeed more when they are succeeding for people that they love and people that support them.  Because of this, the family atmosphere of a baseball team creates even more pressure than an atmosphere where everybody is just showing up.

Pressure is prominent in all sports, but it is magnified exponentially in baseball.  Unlike other team sports, baseball has the unique quality of being a one-on-one game inside of a bigger team contest.  The pitcher versus the batter.  No one else is of any use.  There is no safety valve, no way to pass to a teammate, no way to use a block.  “There are few spectacles in sport as splendid and pitiable as the batter defiantly poised before all that endless openness” (Hart 14).  It is pure, it is simple, and in the most perfect of situations, it is timeless.  The world stands still while the pitcher delivers.  Thousands watch as the hitter cocks his bat.  There could be one pitch, there could be fifteen.  Curveballs, fastballs, line drives, foul tips.  One will be the hero, the other the goat.  They hold the outcome on their shoulders.  The pressure is unmatched.  Mickey Mantle, one of the greatest ballplayers of all time, is described as handling the pressure by feeling like the team was on his shoulders.  “He never showed anyone up, never called anyone out, never blamed anyone but himself.  ‘When you’re that intense, sometimes you’re too hard on yourself,’ Eli Grba said.  ‘You beat yourself to death.  And he did’” (Leavy 187).

It is situations like this that make the real world so much easier to handle.  The battle between the writer and the deadline, the business and the budget, the mortgage payment and the bank; all are individual battles that play a part in the larger scheme.  They all have the ability to make or break the outcome, but they also have the ability to seemingly go away, only to be breathing down your neck after a minute, a day, a month, or a year.  The perpetual goal becomes routine, but the strain is anything but.  The ability to thrive under the demands that are forced down separate the great from the average, and the average from the poor.  

This constant load never really ends.  It can slow down for a period of time, but it will never really go away.  Day in and day out, under the hot sun and late into the night, for eight months, there is baseball.  Like real jobs, there are few off days, and every day is filled.  The physical and mental strain is rarely seen in other sports.  While one game isn’t that demanding, the stretch of thousands of innings becomes tiresome, no matter how much it is loved.  Legs become tired, arms grow stiff, and it becomes hard to focus.  Great endurance is required, as is in any profession.  In order to be good, one must overcome the tire of the days, and be able to focus through the rigors of the daily grind.  Very few players can come to the ballpark and perform everyday, which is what makes someone like Cal Ripken Jr. one of the greatest of all time.  He joined the elite 3000 hit and 400 home run clubs, made 19 All-Star game appearances, and won a World Series, quite remarkable for someone who didn’t take a day off for 2,632 consecutive games (“Cal Ripken Jr.”).

The ability to do this comes through the true love.  Whether it is in baseball or any other field, passion is required to do the most exceptional job possible.  In Lou Gehrig’s famous farewell speech, he reminds us that he, “…is the luckiest man on the face of the Earth.” (“Lou Gehrig” 1)  For some, baseball is a reminder of family.  For others, it is something to look forward to at the end of a long day.  Baseball will never walk out on you; it will always be right by your side.  Always, between the green grass and the blue skies, there will be boys and men throwing the pearl around, there will be hot dogs and Cracker Jack, and there will be the friend in the seat next to you, who you have never met, but feel as if you have known forever.  When one takes a look at the game, it is easy to realize that “baseball connects American males with each other, not only through bleacher friendships and neighbor loyalties, not only through barroom fights but, most importantly, through generations” (Hall 49).  We are in the constant cycle of the sport, and no matter what, we can never truly leave it behind.  Whether we like it or not, our whole nation is part of the game, not just an innocent bystander, but rather a truly vital organ.  Baseball is our country’s conjoined twin, and we are connected by the heart.
No matter how emotionally connected we are to baseball, there will always be social benefits of the game as well.  Baseball can be credited as one of the founders of the modern civil rights movement, as it was there that “separate but equal” was pushed out of the way.  On April 15, 1947, Jackie Robinson made his major league debut (“Jackie Robinson Stats”).  African-Americans were never forbidden from playing, but they had been separated into their own league, dubbed the Negro Leagues.  Robinson’s impact was huge, and in just a few decades, the Major Leagues were integrated.  This was not a one-man show, however.  Many other unsung heroes played a large part in this extremely difficult social progression.  

One of these heroes was Buck O’Neil.  Originally a star for the Kansas City Monarchs, playing alongside legends such as Satchel Paige, Josh Gibson, and Cool Papa Bell, O’Neil went on to be the first black coach in the Major Leagues.  He had the attitude that the Major Leagues were looking for, but he came along too early to be the first black player in the big leagues.  But when asked about this, he showed his joy and passion for the game by saying, “[Baseball] is as good as sex; it’s as good as music.  It fills you up.  Waste no tears for me.  I didn’t come along too early – I was right on time” (O’Neil 3).  Buck O’Neil was a team player, in every sense of the term.  One of the best players of his time, he was often overshadowed by his teammates on the Monarchs, the Yankees of the Negro Leagues.  He realized that he was good enough to be in the Majors, but instead of complaining, he did something about it.  Through scouting and coaching, O’Neil was able to make an even bigger impact on the game than if he would have played.  He didn’t necessarily have the glory, but he was willing to let other people accept it in order to help the game as a whole.  At one point, he received a letter from a fan complaining about the high numbers of black players that O’Neil had signed for the Cubs.  The fan couldn’t have worded it any more perfectly, saying, “What are you trying to do?  Make the Cubs look like the Kansas City Monarchs?” (O’Neil 192).  In fact, he wasn’t trying to move the Monarchs to Chicago, but rather black culture into white culture.  The nation loved baseball during the middle of the twentieth century more than any other period in history, and O’Neil’s foresight was incredible.  When Jackie Robinson finally made it to Brooklyn, O’Neil sent him a letter applauding his efforts.  “I can't go, but I'm so happy you are there 'cause I know that means my son and my grandson will be there” (England 4).   

During this same time period, the United States was in the midst of some very serious international conflicts.  With World War II and the Korean War occupying most of the national attention from 1941 to 1953, baseball provided a much needed getaway device.  In 1942, Major League commissioner Kenesaw Mountain Landis sent President Roosevelt a letter in order to ask if the President wanted the League to shut down during wartime.  Roosevelt responded with an unquestionable opinion, saying, “I honestly feel that it would be best for the country to keep baseball going…And that means that [the work force] ought to have a chance for recreation and for taking their minds off their work even more than before.”  For many players, however, these times were anything but.  In Roosevelt’s letter, he mandated that, “individual players who are active military or naval age should go, without question, into the services” (Roosevelt 2-5).  Ted Williams, Joe DiMaggio, Bob Feller, and many others joined the services during these times of need, sacrificing their own personal glory in order to protect their country.  Williams, a Hall-of-Fame player, is widely considered the best all around hitter of all time.  He lost three years of his prime to World War II, and was still able to chalk up 2,654 hits and a .344 batting average over his career (“Ted Williams Stats”).  With the addition of this lost time, it is incredible to wonder what could have been.  Certainly, Williams must have wondered these same thoughts, but he went without as much as a flinch into the Marine Corps.  He didn’t see himself as any higher than any other soldier, and saw no need to receive special treatment.

With the absence of a military draft in the United States for about four decades, there is almost no more of this type of behavior left.  Athletes see no reason to leave their million dollar careers in order to risk their lives.  This makes those who do even bigger heroes.  Mitch Harris was a pitcher who was picked in the thirteenth round of the 2008 Major League draft, but there is a catch.  Harris is not like most of the other players eligible to be selected, as he graduated from the United States Naval Academy.  Per Academy rules, every student must serve five years upon graduation, no matter what job is being offered to them.  There is an opportunity to opt out after a student’s second year in school, but Harris did not take advantage of this.  Navy was the only Division I school to recruit him out of high school, and he realized that he owed them his right arm for the opportunity that they presented him.  Without the Academy, he may not have been switched from a reliever to the starting rotation, and he may not have been as big of a prospect as he is today (Bradley 1). 


It is no coincidence that these athletes serve their country.  Baseball players have always had a special place in the hearts of Americans.  Baseball players look like everyday people, those who you could find down the street or at the grocery store.  There are no physical requirements in the game.  You don’t have to be tall like in basketball, or physically huge like in football.  Baseball is, and always has been, a game for the common man.  The players wear everyday clothes, from the button-up shirts to the belted pants, and the coaches look no different.  When someone cheats to get to the top, by using steroids or other methods, the fans show vehement disapproval, but at the same time rally behind the players who do things the right way.  We love the kid, fresh from the minors, who stretches for the extra base.  We appreciate the seasoned veteran who stays with the team that drafted him, from World Series to last place finishes.  We all cheered for the Red Sox when they won their first championship in nearly a century, and we all were exasperated when the Yankees won their 26th in the same time period.  Baseball is built around the players who work their hardest everyday and never take a play off.  America is built around the workers who go into the offices and factories every morning without complaint.
One of the most famous plays in baseball history, Bobby Thomson’s “Shot Heard ‘Round the World,” which won the 1951 pennant for the New York Giants, was the result of a matchup between two young men who came out of these blue collar, working class families.  “Bobby Thomson [the batter] and Ralph Branca [pitcher], the two pivotal figures in the final game’s final play, epitomized this link.  Both came from large immigrant working-class families; both had been raised and lived in the New York area, and, according to legend, had kissed their mothers good-bye when they left for the game that morning” (Tygiel 35).  Before the age of huge contracts, most players even became a part of the community in which they played, often working in the off-season alongside the fans that adored them throughout the summer (Tygiel 147).  This connection is just one more way that baseball players are linked to the America.  They aren’t some distant species, absent from all connections to the rest of the country, separated from the fans that cheer them on.  They are a living, breathing part of society.  They are men who put in their eight to ten hours a day, every day, just like everybody else.

So it turns out that baseball does not affect our culture.  It is our culture.  We, as Americans, grow up around the game whether we like it or not.  It is a never changing presence, from Little League to the Big Leagues, the sandlot to Yankee Stadium, t-ball to 100 mile-per-hour fastballs.  With the songs of birds in the spring come the cracks of the bat, and the smack of leather ball on leather fades with the cooling of the temperature.  This is as sure as the sun rising in the east and setting in the west.  Life has been compared, in various instances, to a dance, a song, and a journey, but I would like to suggest that it is a ballgame.  There are ups and downs, winning takes sacrifice and luck, and sometimes it takes a few extra innings.  Those who succeed are those who put the team before themselves, and are willing to compete every day without taking a break.  There are underdogs and favorites, blowouts and come-from-behind nail-biters.  But it is always a little surprising, always a little bit different, and always fun.  Baseball is our game.  Baseball is our pastime.  Baseball is who we are.

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Saturday, December 4, 2010

"You always felt like it was baseball here"


My favorite people are people who love their jobs, people who we can all be pretty sure would still work even if they weren't getting a paycheck, people who make us question the definition of what work is and whether or not it has to involve at least some degree of disappointment or hassle or frustration.  People like the previously mentioned George the barber, people like Stuart, people like Ron Santo.

From 1959 until Thursday, Ron Santo managed to make a living from the game of baseball.  He played until 1974, and from 1990-2010 he was the color commentator for the Cubs.  The job description of "color commentator" could not fit anyone better than it fit Ron Santo.  We've discussed color commentators before.  Very few people who are given this title actually perform what they set out to.  They don't add color to the game, they add "I think I'm smarter than you" and "I don't give the viewers enough credit" insight.  Ron Santo didn't do that.  Ron Santo provided color.  He made listening fun.  As a Chicago native, it's very easy to juxtapose Ron and his play-by-play partner, Pat Hughes, with Ed Farmer and Darrin Jackson of the White Sox.  Farmer and Jackson are very good at two things: 1. Trying to talk over each other.  2. Not really being able to figure out who's supposed to be doing play-by-play.  3. Knowing more than the other person  4. Taking themselves way too seriously  5. Not providing negative excitement (I know, that was more than 2, but I was on a roll).  Pat and Ron don't have these problems at all.  Pat gives an incredibly descriptive description of the game, the weather, the uniforms, the ballpark, and Ron sucks it all in like the rest of us would if we were at the ballpark.  He was an emotional roller coaster, just like the rest of us are when we're emotionally invested in things.  Would my mother like listening to the Cubs if it weren't for Ron Santo's ability to attach her emotionally to the game?  Not a chance.  He did this not only with positive excitement, but also with negative excitement, most famously when Brant Brown dropped that fricken fly ball.  "Ohhhh noooooo...  Nooooooooo!"  Pat and Ron had conversations that made listening worthwhile even when the game wasn't.  (Editor's note: This is a great stocking stuffer)  They involved the listener.  They were best friends and they allowed you into that circle, and we knew that it was a privilege and that we should be honored, and we were.  It was like they were sitting in the backseat of the car, reminiscing about the glory days, getting their hopes up about the current players and teams, and basically just being professional fans.

Ron Santo didn't add much insight to broadcasts.  He wasn't a brilliant analyst.  (Mickey Mantle once said, "I could never be a manager. All I have is natural ability."  I'd put Ron in a similar category)  He was, however, the most passionate of fans.  When we get to the ballpark we always check out who's sitting around us, and the best are the guys who know just enough to not be annoying ("Yay!  Wait, what happened?"), but not too much to the point where they over-analyze everything ("The SABRmetrics say that guys with Nike spikes perform worse on Thursdays.  I can't believe that Piniella didn't know that").  The best is the guy who has a relationship with the game, because baseball is a game you have to have a relationship with.  There isn't the constant excitement to hold your attention and it's way too complicated to truly understand unless you've spent a lot of time around it, which means that there is a much bigger distance between true fans and casual friends than in other sports.  I've heard people say that Ron Santo is annoying or that he's stupid or that he's hard to listen to.  These people just don't understand Ron Santo's beautiful relationship with the game.  There was nothing else (just kidding, he's a great family man too).   (Editor's note: I should be using past tense I guess, but I don't think I'm ready for that)  Donald Hall said in his book Fathers Playing Catch With Sons, "Baseball is fathers and sons. Football is brothers beating each other up in the backyard, violent and superficial. Baseball is the generations, looping backward forever with a million apparitions of sticks and balls, cricket and rounders, and the games the Iroquois played in Connecticut before the English came. Baseball is fathers and sons playing catch, lazy and murderous, wild and controlled, the profound archaic song of birth, growth, age, and death. This diamond encloses what we are."  Baseball isn't meant to be focused on 100% when you're watching or listening.  Every pitch doesn't need to be analyzed because there's not that much meaning behind a 1-1 outside fastball that the pitcher was trying to brush the corner with.  It doesn't need to be looked at too hard.  Other things can be talked about during a ballgame because there isn't a need for the entire three hours to be filled with play descriptions and analysis.  Ron Santo understood that.  He would get up and go to the bathroom between innings, he would get hot dogs and go silent for batters at a time while eating them, he was just a fan.  He was somebody that other fans could relate to, and that's why he's so loved.

When Sportsman's Park in St. Louis was torn down, he was quoted as saying "I'm going to miss it... It always felt like it was baseball here."  That's what Ron Santo's voice has been for the last twenty years.  It always meant baseball.  He lived through the Cubs, and now he's died with the Cubs.

Sunday, November 7, 2010

Rejoice!

Clockwise from top right: Pennies for Peace students, Ben Folds, Pre, Will Hunting, Kyle McAlarney, David Cone and Jorge Posada, Andy DuFrense, and a generic (but very cute) baby

I haven't had the best of weeks due to a number of various things, but just now, after coming back from Dawg Mass, the following was in my inbox.  I know feel a gazillion times better (statistics approximated) thanks to Very Young Stuart (the first).  Brothers need brothers.

Rejoice!

 I have seen the end of the rainbow.  Running through the school parking lot last Thursday at the end of cross country practice, light was refracted through the swirling rain onto clouds in the distance and the cars right in front of me.  There was no leprechaun, and there was no pot of gold, just the gift of beauty, more valuable than any metal in the universe.

Rainbows have puzzled mankind for centuries, an inexplicable link between Heaven and Earth, a rare piece of insight into the laws of the universe.  They have been the topic of scientific studies, literature, and music.  According to Christian and Jewish doctrine, the Rainbow is a sign of God's promise to never again destroy humanity.  The Norse believed that the Rainbow was a path between the Gods and themselves.  For me, it will always signify something more important: the eternal presence of light, even in the darkest storm.

People worry too much.  This was brought to my attention a month ago by my mother, who had learned it from her yoga instructor.  During the moment in which worry occurs, the person is rarely experiencing any discomfort whatsoever.  In fact their condition is usually very content.  When the worrisome event actually occurs, it rarely comes close to living up to the hype from the worrier.  People would be much happier and less stressed if every time they found themselves worrying, the instead turned their attention to how pleaseant their present state of being was.  If people stopped for a moment to appreciate the detail in a leaf, or the glory of a blue sky, or the warmth of a smiling face, the world would be a better place.  Instead, worry clouds our skies, darkening our lives until it threatens to block out the light of the beauty in our world.

People want too much recognition.  It's one of the underlying (and urgent) problems in our education system.  Students cram their heads with facts, regurgitate them onto answer sheets, and then move on to the next subject, not once stopping to explore the significance or interest that lies in the piece of information they have just learned.  Those who seek enlightenment are looked at as oddities, weeds on the well-tended lawn of conformity.  Meanwhile, countless others push themselves through classes that don't interest them, learning to associate school with busywork and useless knowledge instead of creativity, innovation, and progress.  As a result, few people truly enjoy learning anymore.  They strive for A+'s, a high GPA, admittance into a top-notch university, for what benefit?  So they can live a life doing a job that they don't particularly enjoy to earn money that they can spend in ways to make people think well of them?  Desire to conform leads to a blurring of what is truly important to a student.  They no longer want what they want, but rather what society says they should want.  Even at Crystal Lake Central High School, a wonderful institution where teachers encourage true learning, and not just working for points, I listen to countless students a day tell how they are enhancing their college applications with honors and advanced placement courses that they don't learn from and don't enjoy.  They brag about the latest shortcut they've found to make homework take less time or how they convinced a teacher to give them extra credit.  They worry about being what society tells them they want to be instead of asking themselves what they truly want in life.  They fail to see the rainbow; instead worrying about getting wet.

I am extremely happy with the grades I have in school, but this means nothing.  The one thing I am most proud of, the thing that separates me from other "students," is that I love school.  I love learning.  I don't do assignments if they aren't enjoyable for me.  I routinely spend many extra, unnecessary hours working on an outline for my history class simply because I get caught up in the stories and the inticacies of the text.  I find myself whizzing through Physics in wonder as the universe is broken down into numbers and laws before my very eyes.   I stride into English looking forward to what that day's discussion will bring, hoping that another article is made available to me to analyze, praying that I get to write something.  I try to explain this to my peers and they look at me as if I should see a doctor.  I pity them.  They find no joy in school, the one activity that takes up the most time in their waking lives.

Don't conform.  Stop trying to make people like you.  Be happy.  Find joy in everything you do.  If there is no joy to be found, it is not worth doing.  Never sacrifice personal desires for societal ones.  Do what you love and love what you do.  See the beauty in the world.  I have seen it.  Search for the end of the rainbow.  I have found it.  Enjoy life.  I enjoy it immensely.  Rejoice.  I rejoice.

- Stuart Streit I

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Someone I want in my foxhole

One person who I have a lot of respect for is my high school baseball coach, Jeff Aldridge.  When we chose team captains, he would have us write down three guys each that we would want in our foxhole.  What he meant by that was three people that we knew we could count on if we had to make it out of a battle alive.  This meant the people that we picked weren't necessarily the ones we liked the most or who were the best players (although it was always a bonus if they did fall into these categories), but the ones who were loyal enough and valued the group enough to stay with us for better or for worse.  This is somebody that I would definitely want in my foxhole:
The Nard Dawg
I don't think I've ever met a person as loyal as Nardo.  Nardo is somebody who would do anything for any of his friends.  Whenever something seemed even slightly wrong, he'd immediately check on me to make sure I was okay.  Whenever one of us went into an uncertain situation he'd be right next to us.  He gave everybody a chance, and then he made sure that he had their back forever.  Little things like that seemed insignificant at the time, but looking back, it's amazing how much they can do and how much I value them.  Knowing that there's somebody that cares about you is a feeling that you only realize exists when it disappears. 

This man loves his friends more than just about anything in the world, which I'm sure the rest of us wish we could truly say.  No matter how much love I throw at Nardo, he always throws back more, but I guess I can still try.  If I'm ever in a foxhole I want Nardo there next to me, because I know that he'd be more willing to go down himself to get me out than to get out himself.  That's the best kind of friend and the best kind of person, and I can only hope he realizes how highly I think of him.

Monday, September 27, 2010

Things that are undervalued: Spontaneous Bro Time

Other than "the talk," bro time is the most important thing in a young man's life.  There are very few things more rewarding than hanging out with a bunch of dudes and discussing the very deep emotions that live inside of our hearts and souls.  Even better, though, is when this bro-ing (broing? browing?) happens without any premeditation.  This means that the only dudes that are there are those who want to be there, as opposed to these other species of dudes.

(Brief tangent):

The dude without any friends
This guy has nobody to go hang out with so he resorts to coming to hang out with you, mostly because you are either too nice to tell him to buzz off or because you and him are in the awkward range of semi-friends, where you really would never go out of your way to do anything with him, even if "out of your way" consisted of waiting 5 to 10 seconds for him to catch up, but you also don't dislike him.  Incredibly, this guy has no idea that you aren't close friends with him, making the whole situation even weirder.  This friendship purgatory is quite possibly the strangest situation that fits in the category of "human interactions," and therefore will take away from regular Bro Time.  This guy will rarely attend Spontaneous Bro Time because: A.  He will have been ditched by this point or B.  You'll finally get weirded out enough to tell him to leave.

The dude who would much rather be hanging out with his girlfriend
This guy is easily recognizable because of the phone that is seemingly glued to his hand.  He checks it every 2-2.7 seconds and often explains that his texts aren't being answered because of the "shitty service" inside the building.  This guy is closely related to the "guy who is way more into his girlfriend than she is to him."  He detracts from all bro-ing by constant use of his pissy face and by sending out negative vibes that kill even the most remote signs of joy.

The dude who wants to go to bed
This guy has the ability to be extremely sneaky in his desire to ruin Bro Time.  Because bedtime is generally a somewhat unplanned decision, he has the ability to drop the bed bomb even after contributing to the Bro Time.  He generally decides to do this just as the peak of Bro Time is being reached, totally ruining everything and immediately demoting him to the status of "the dude without any friends." 

(end of tangent)

Without any of these guys, Spontaneous Bro Time has a much higher potential for bonding than regular Bro Time.  Adding to this experience is the fact that Spontaneous Bro Time is often in close quarters, such as a bed or a quad bench.  Not only does this create a closed conversation that can keep out the aforementioned weenies, but it creates a situation where nobody feels bad about semi-cuddling together, which is, for some reason, frowned upon.  This setting allows for bro-love that spreads more rapidly than the flu virus in a kindergarten.


The reason that Spontaneous Bro Time is so underrated is that it can never be premeditated, or it would lose it's spontaneousness (I'm pretty sure that's a word).  On the other hand, this is the exact thing that makes it so incredible.  Spontaneous Bro Time is Bro Time that has reached the elite level, and if it were planned, it would be impossible to obtain.  Beauty comes from purity.  Spontaneous Bro Time is the most pure that love can be, and therefore, Spontaneous Bro Time, is the most beautiful thing in the world.